Twin Soul Unions

Mahina and Lulu

Today I was having a conversation with a friend and it is within conversation that I often come to important realizations. Today was no exception.

This was the start of our conversation. My comments are in color with typos and hers are in white. 😁

Many people believe that twin souls/twin flames are two halves of a whole. I don't adhere to this way of thinking. 

During our conversation, I described two instances in which dogs I had seemed to have an instant soul recognition with another dog they just met and couldn't stop kissing them. These were dogs that were typically not very friendly with other dogs. With the right ones, it was instantaneous.

In my 52 years of life, I have connected to so many wrong people...wrong potential partners. I haven't really had good ones. I can find positives in just about anyone, but no one that makes me want to run up and kiss them and kiss them due to energy/soul recognition and never want to let them go. 

The ones I thought were "good" I was simply romanticizing. I believed (falsely) that they were better than they actually were.  I used to spend a lot of time living in the past and the "what ifs". 

I could make old flames out to be these magnificent people by focusing on the positives and projecting onto them who I believed them to be. If only I hadn't been commitment phobic.  If only I hadn't moved away. If only I had called him back and not lost touch. If only, if only, if only... 

So, when I got in touch with an old flame after all those years, I had this false image of him in my mind. I projected onto him who I believed him to be and he definitely puffed himself up to keep up that false belief. I eventually met up in person with the old flame. What I believed and what was true were two very different things. That was obvious in the in-person meeting which I couldn't have known otherwise by simply talking in text, phone conversations and online.

I can be very forgiving and I can overlook things to a point it is a detriment to myself. Thankfully, the old flame rejected me. In that rejection, it catapulted me into my self-love journey because I fought back and wouldn't accept his rejection as meaning there was something wrong with me. Where once I would take it personally and think there was something inherently wrong with me, I now was putting the responsibility back in the lap of who it belonged to. I didn't know about mirrors back then, but certainly he was a shadow, a mirror, that had come to send me on a crash course into self-love and self-discovery.

This journey I have been on has given me the ability to recognize energy better and not overlook so much. It has helped me recognize my own value. It has helped me get to know myself so deeply that I know my own energy extremely well.

I think, maybe, twin soul/flame unions are considered so rare because we often remain too fragmented to ever truly know our own energy enough to find a match. We are too busy cutting parts of ourselves off to fit someone else.

The journey, if done correctly, restores the parts of us we have cut off or given away and allows the parts of us to fall away that were put there as a defense system or coping mechanism that was never really who we were at our core. It restores confidence and releases insecurities that are the root of so many relationship problems. It gives us tools for communication, discernment, recognition, boundaries, and ending destructive patterns. It brings us back to self love and balance. It teaches us how to both give and receive and seek out relationships with those who can also both give and receive easily.

"Twin" isn't about being two halves of a whole but being two wholes with matching energy.

If we don't know our own energy or who we are, we will never be able to recognize someone whose energy so closely matches our own that they could be considered a "twin". 

If the energy we are in is someone we don't like, would we really want to connect with the matching energy of that? That is why we have to grow, expand, change and call back to us who we were always meant to be. When we become someone we fall in love with AND can recognize our own energy match in another, then we are ready for a physical union with someone.

Anyone has the potential to be a match if their energy lines up and matches our own. Most people who think they are with their twin actually are with a mirror, a shadow. Yes, love your shadows but know when to let them go, too. Letting go with love and appreciation for the lessons gained has been a huge part of the journey for me, a difficult and painful part, but a very necessary one. So often we love people who really aren't very good for us. Fully loving yourself is knowing when to walk away and let the connection go.

I was thinking about the reference to ultraviolet from my dreams and what it could mean. The main thing that comes to mind right away is how there are some rocks and minerals that look completely different under ultraviolet light. What once looked ordinary under normal light, looks extraordinary under ultraviolet light. Perhaps the meaning is that the so called "twin flame journey" or what I like to call "the journey back to self" gives us new eyes to see each other with. No longer are we satisfied seeing with our eyes alone. Now we see with what we feel, what we sense, what we hear and what we know. We see with observation of actions and behaviors. We see with signs, syncs and inner guidance. 

A person most people see as "nothing special" we can now easily see as a rare extraordinary magical creature to be revered. Someone we might have overlooked before we started the journey back to self, we can now see with with "ultraviolet light" vision and recognize the extraordinary beauty of their energy, mind and heart.

When we come to the completion of the "twin flame" journey, we should finally be healed, whole, and developed enough that we can enter a healthy and successful relationship with someone who has also reached the same level of growth and development.

It is there "happily ever after" can truly begin.

*Mineral Images borrowed from here.

Life as a Personal Play and More On Alpha Companions

 

So, one of my Facebook friends posed this question:

For there to be an Alpha; does there really need to be a Beta? ‪#‎hierarchyquestions‬ ‪#‎humanityquestions‬

 This was my response:

Well if there are only two people in your "pack" or whatever, then I suppose there could be only Alphas. But if we think in terms of importance of those around us, of course there are going to be Alphas, Betas, Kappas, etc. Does everyone you meet have the same importance to you? No. What about the asshole that makes derogatory remarks to you? Are you going to hold him as near and dear as someone you trust and love? Probably not.

We all have soul groups/families and some soul groups/families are smaller than others. But as far as I know, none of them consist of only two souls. An Alpha can refer to simply the importance a specific person has to you. It doesn't have to be hierarchy in the way you are thinking. We all are Alphas within our own lives and who you choose to dance with before you come into the physical is something you agree with that other person.

 
I kept thinking more about this question and our so called "reality". Our lives are more like a stage drama...our own personal play where each of us plays a starring role.  We are each the center of our own Universe. If we think in terms of a play and we each have a starring role, then all the other people that ever come into your life also have parts in your play. The thing is, not every actor is going to be given top billing with you. Not everyone can see their name on the marquee alongside yours. Not every actor will even be given the same number of speaking parts.
 
You have supporting cast and these people might easily be considered to be in Beta and Kappa roles or even lower if they don't even have a speaking part. Actually, some "baddies" have some pretty big roles in some dramas that play out. The question is, how many lines will you allow the antagonist to have in your personal play? You can either give them a starring role or you can cut their lines significantly so that they only have a cameo...important but short.

When it comes to the Alpha Companions that I spoke about in a previous blog post, not many of us come into these lives and only experience one romantic partner. To think we would only ever have an Alpha Companion in our entire lifetime...well that would be a pretty rare thing as we often have several people we want to dance with and at least one we want to assume a starring role. Another term we could use is Primary Soul Mate. We can have multiple soul mates in lots and lots of varying roles. The word "primary" simply gives us an indication of the importance of their role. We have primary guides which could also be called an Alpha Guide, I suppose. We have other guides too, but at least one that is front and center and plays a really important role in guiding us through this personal play of ours. Maybe they are a little like the director behind the scenes keeping the play going the direction that we, ourselves, want it to go.

I was simply presenting an alternative to the "twin flames" term and offering one my guides have used with me during my time in the astral (aka dreams). I guess to me it isn't that complicated to understand the concept of an Alpha Companion simply because I know there are many people in my life who have different degrees of importance to me. It isn't about "hierarchy" but simply a reality of larger roles versus smaller roles. I'm not going to get butt-hurt that I don't have a big role in someone else's play if I don't even really care that much about them.

Edited: Go HERE for an update on Alpha Companions.

Alpha Companions, Twin Flames, and Facets of Source

Twin flames...a phrase that has become incredibly common and widely used. Often the definition of a "twin flame" is two parts of one soul...male and female split into two parts. I have a problem with the whole twin flame thing for many reasons and I will try to explain why here.

In the end we are all part of the one God/Source. It all goes back to that. I like to imagine Source as bread dough and pulling out a bit here and a bit there to create smaller loaves of bread or personal pizza if pizza is your thing. All the ingredients that were present in the original bread dough are all still present in the smaller pieces. So, if the smaller pieces decide, "Hey, I want to split to become two pieces of dough" they can. And guess what? All the same ingredients are still present to make a perfect smaller bread loaf. It is the same with us. No matter how many times we split, we still have exactly all the same ingredients that make us as the original blob of bread dough. Naturally, as we all originated from the single blob of bread dough.

So this notion that we broke off into masculine and feminine to create man and woman is flawed. When we split, we simply become two perfect and whole aspects of God/Source. The only thing that takes on male and female is the vehicle we choose. We chose to create vehicles that mimic the different parts of the soul to see what happens when they function side by side as different beings but the soul when outside the vehicle has no gender. There is no gender distinction outside the Earth vehicle. We have all had experience PLAYING A ROLE of BOTH male and female characters. The energy that makes us who we are, the soul, is perfect and whole on its own. We don't need to hook up with another being that is the other half of us. We ALL are perfect aspects of the one. So really, we are all parts of one soul. 

 

We don't NEED to find anyone to complete us. We are complete and whole in this now moment. We just have to realize that. We don't need join with some other being before we can fully awaken our Kundalini.  We need only to BALANCE our own masculine and feminine to achieve this. 

Now that is not to say that we don't all have our own unique vibration. I like to think of us as sound and light. I like to think of us as a song. We do have energetic matches. An energetic match in my mind is someone whose song matches ours harmoniously and we compliment each other. When we come together, our light blends to create both a new color and song. The song is beautiful and the color is amazing....BUT there is not a single vibrational match for every person. We have MANY matches. The question is, who will you choose to partner up with in the physical for this dance.

 

We CHOOSE the energetic match we want to dance with before we come into the physical. Again I say, we do not have just one match. There are many who match our energetic vibrations. Just like there is free will here, there is free will there. As above, so below. Why would we be forced to be with one single being based on being born with them. Don't you think that we are, perhaps, more advanced than that and can actually choose? Isn't it limiting to think that we have only one perfect match? I happen to think so.  Do we put a plan in place to meet up with someone we really dig to play out a role that will help the planet shift into higher consciousness? YES!  Is it possible to actually meet up with this energetic match and, in joining, it creates the perfect setting for a spontaneous Kundalini awakening? Most definitely, YES!  Look up "tantric sex" and "kundalini" and you will find vast amounts of information about awakening the Kundalini via "SACRED SEX".

 

What people are calling "twin flames" my guides have been referring to as ALPHA COMPANIONS in my dreams lately. When I first heard the term in my dream, I was like "huh?" and had to think about the meaning of both words. "Alpha" indicates highest ranking, most important, dominant, most valued. To pair it with "companion" would also seem to indicate there are other lower ranking companions. If I draw further on my own dreams, what they have shown me is I have two energetic matches close to me that I kinda dig. They, funny enough, have shown them to me as twins, but I have selected one before I came into the physical to be my Alpha Companion. Always in my dreams I am shown I fancy the funny one more. Apparently I like a person with a sense of humor.

Now....these are simply MY thoughts and my opinions. These are MY BELIEFS. It is up to each of you to figure out what you will choose to believe. I think the concept of a "twin flame" in the way it is described 95 percent of the time is both limiting and flawed.

Edited: Go HERE for an update on Alpha Companions.