|Borrowed from Laura Jane Grace's Instagram page.|
I have come out of my antisocial hole to speak out about an issue that is close to my heart. One of my Facebook friends posted a link to a video of Laura Jane Grace at a library speaking to children about gender variations. You have to understand that she wasn't speaking to an unsuspecting audience. These were parents and children who are already dealing with these issues first hand and Laura was there to say "you aren't alone and we support you." I have read so many horrible and ignorant comments about her trying to brainwash the children. Trust me when I say, there is no brainwashing in allowing your children to be who they feel they are at their core. I call that love, support, understanding and compassion.
My comment to my FB friend on his share where there were only hateful comments:
|Borrowed from Laura Jane Grace's Instagram page.|
I love Laura and love what she does in being a voice for those the rest of the world fail to understand. I know lots of kids who show signs of not fitting gender norms and I have also seen them being abused by parents for showing those tendencies. Parents who show compassion and understanding for their children and allow them to simply be who they really are are to be admired and respected. Clearly the majority of the people viewing this lack compassion and understanding. Someone I love dearly and helped raise is trans and it doesn't make her sick, disgusting or mentally ill. She is a lovely, intelligent and beautiful person and people like Laura and myself want to make it a safer, more accepting world where our kids can be who they are without fear.
Now let me tell you a personal story.
Years ago when I was in my early twenties, my younger brother married a woman who had a young son. My brother, his wife and his young step son moved into the house with me and my mom. For a time I took care of the child while his mom worked. My sister-in-law had him when she was only 17 so her parents had a big role in her son's life. Unfortunately what they taught him was that what can be bought for him equals love...but that is another story. For the most part M was a good kid. He was 4 years old when my brother and sister-in-law found that he had taken some of his mother's pantyhose and underwear and had hidden them. I think they might have even caught him trying them on. The details are fuzzy as it was over 20 years ago. But basically when the hidden women's garments were found, my brother tore into him both physically and verbally.
No child should ever have to endure that and I was horrified. Did his "offense" really justify having him be spanked in anger brutally and being verbally assaulted. Is the idea that he might be gay really an offense worth scarring him for life that it would take him years to overcome and come out openly as gay? Maybe he would have decided he was trans if he had been allowed to explore gender variations safely.
These kids KNOW early on they have these inclinations and that has nothing to do with brainwashing. Education is not brainwashing. Understanding and compassion is not brainwashing. It is fucking embracing who they are and giving them a safe environment to EXPLORE who they want to be. Maybe M would have chosen to be transgender or maybe he would have simply decided he was gay and either choice should have been embraced and accepted, but it wasn't what happened to him. As a result he repressed who he was for years and turned to drugs. He became a pretty fucked up and ill-adjusted person.
M's family and I have been estranged for many years now. I no longer have contact with him but my heart bleeds for him and for who he could have been had he been given love, understanding and compassion instead in those tender years of his development. I think our kids deserve more from us as a collective society. Why is it so difficult to take your closed minded heads out of your asses and see that love and compassion really aren't as difficult as you might imagine. People are people no matter the gender identification or sexual orientation.
Here is where we consider the possible spiritual aspects of being transgender.
For those in the spiritual community, we know we have had many, many incarnations in these flesh prisons. Wouldn't it stand to reason that as we start to remember who we really are at our core, we could remember being an individual who is not the gender we are currently born? I remember many of my lives and I have been both male and female. Do I feel like I was born in the wrong body? Not at all which is what we call "cis gender". But for someone who has had more lives as female and a part of their subconscious remembers but they are born male, they might struggle. Past life memories are real regardless of what you believe about reincarnation. More and more young children are remembering their past lives and it would stand to reason if they were pretty fucking confused when they aren't what they remember.
So instead of hate, intolerance and violence, maybe we can try to be understanding how difficult it already is for them and try to make their lives a little easier by simply loving and embracing who they want to be.