Wednesday, December 19, 2012

A Letter to a Friend

I typed this letter for a friend and as I read through the list of advice I was giving, I knew these were all things I needed to keep reminding myself to do. So as a way to do that, I will post the list here on my blog so I can look back at it every now and then.

Dearest Danielle, 

Thank you for all of your lovely compliments. I am just doing the best that I can do. Really, the majority of growth I made came after Phoenix made her transition to the other side. That will be two years in March. I was so struck by grief that it caused me to start searching spiritually. Her death is really what put me on the fast track to learning all that I have learned. So you see, it has nothing to do with age and the amount of time a person has had on this earth, it has to do with a deep desire for something more, for something better than the life they are currently living. The death of someone you love dearly has a way of making people search for the truth...try to discover what their spiritual beliefs are or are not. It often opens them up, makes their heart bleed and makes them open to believing in a higher power. I considered myself atheist before all of this and look where I am now. :) A person can grow exponentially when they are ready to welcome it into their lives.
Here is my advice for you:
1 . Live in the moment

Don't worry about what may or may not happen in a future that doesn't exist and may never exist. LIVE in the moment, right here, right now and love each moment...even the ones we perceive as bad because they help us grow so very much.

2. Heal your past
Don't worry about what happened yesterday. Forgive others, forgive yourself.  Love your past for all it has taught you, but take those lessons and LET IT GO. Your past is not who you are, it is simply part of your story. You get to decide who you are and what defines you in any given moment.
3. Love yourself
Stop worrying about boys and how your life should be this way or that. All of your obsession about relationships is really about the desire for you to love yourself. Love yourself with all the wild abandon you think you are craving from someone else. When you truly love yourself, love will emanate from you for everyone and everything else. You won't feel unfulfilled. You won't feel you need a relationship to feel complete. And any relationship you create AFTER you have learned to love yourself completely will be magical and magnificent.
4. Create your own reality
We already do this anyway, so why not create the reality you really want. Do an online search for "law of attraction" and "creative visualization". Check out the movie "The Secret" from your local library and learn how our thoughts create our reality. We attract what we think about. If you obsess about a lack of something, that is what you will create...a lack of relationship, a lack of money, lack of happiness, etc. Focus on what you want, picture it in your mind as already being yours and the Universe will comply. Make a vision board of all the things you want to see more of in your life. Look at it everyday and know and feel that they are a reality that is yours.
5. Count your blessings
We each have so much to be grateful and thankful for, but in our quest for this or that we forget to simply be grateful and thankful for what we DO have. Thank the Universe for legs that work, for food in your belly, for a roof over your head, for sight and sound, for the gentle breeze, the air you breathe, etc. Realize you are SO blessed.
6. Do what you love
If you don't love what you are doing, STOP. Do what you love. If you died tomorrow will you regret from the other side that you didn't work more at that job you don't resonate with? Do what you love and everything else will fall into place. Let your heart be the guide for where you need to be at any given point in time. If you do what you love, you are following what the life blueprint you set up for yourself before you came into this incarnation.
7. Live from the heart
In every moment of every day, do your best to live from the heart. When an issue comes up, think of what a loving response would be and then act out of love. Love as much as you can until you feel you could burst and then love some more. We ARE love and love is what we are about.
8. Live in the light
Stop being afraid. Fear is poison. Fear lowers our vibration and makes it harder for our spirit guides and loved ones on the other side to be able to communicate with us.  Love your life...the good, the bad and everything in between.  Don't be afraid. There is nothing to fear. Don't focus on the news and all the bad things that are happening. Know that your lack of fear and positive thoughts will do so much good for Earth and humanity.
9. Live consciously and intentionally
Since thoughts are things and create our reality, it is very important to live consciously and intentionally. Be aware of your thoughts. Be aware of how they can affect all around us. Thank your food for giving itself to you because plants have just as much consciousness as animals. Thank them for their sacrifice. Infuse your food and water with love with your thought.
10. Listen to and trust your intuition
We have become so separated from our true natures. We were designed with intuition. Pay attention and listen to that little voice in your head. If something doesn't feel right in a situation, listen to what your intuition is telling you and do something about it. If your intuition tells you something is a message or sign for you from your guides and the Universe, listen and trust your intuition. It knows...YOU know...just listen.
11. Get to know yourself
Take some time to do something that relaxes you and spend some time with yourself to find out who you are and what you really want. Take some time to have a conversation with yourself. Take some time to visualize yourself having a conversation with your higher self and ask for guidance from yourself. You have ALL the answers within you. 
12. Breathe
Above all...B R E A T H E...every day...do deep breathing. Take a walk or sit outside and breathe in fresh air. I like to imagine all the bad feelings, all the negative leaving my body when I exhale. I like to imagine positive healing light coming into me when I breathe really deeply. I always feel better when I do this.
13. Meditate, meditate, mediate
You don't have to practice a certain way of meditating, just get quiet ...stop the chatter...and listen. Our spirit guides can communicate better with us in these moments and when a thought pops in your brain, it is likely from a guide. :)  This is the video I have been using to awaken my Kundalini. Be sure to listen to parts 1 and 2 first:


14. Live your truth
Find out what feels true to you and then hold onto that truth. Don't let anyone take it from you. Don't be afraid to live your truth even if you feel you are the only one around you who has that truth. No two paths are exactly the same, so don't expect someone else's truths to be exactly like yours. It is okay to be different. Embrace it and celebrate those differences.
I know you hate technology, but it could help so much in making you feel more connected with like-minded people. Don't try to go it alone. The Channeling Erik community is wonderful...both on Facebook and the website. Reach out and start talking. Go to sites and start reading. Go to YouTube and start watching. Technology can be your friend if you allow it. ;) You are a beautiful person both inside and out (love the picture of you and your cutie). Reach for the things you want and don't put it off another day. Go out and live a joyful happy life.

Be the change you want to see in the world.


Love and Light,

Oktobre